by Chris Krohn
Yes, that’s right. What if all the Life’s Lessons you learned since childhood are actually backwards from the truth?
From our parents, families, teachers, popular media and society, we learned “how it is”. Things like “No Pain, No Gain”, “Money is the root of all Evil”, believing that our happiness lies with other people and situations, that things in life happen to us, and that life is a struggle. These beliefs keep us in lack, struggle, powerlessness, and anxiety, but the good news is that all these life lessons are backwards from the truth.
Let’s tackle these one-by-one.
Lack and Scarcity
Society teaches us that we have to compete for money, success and resources in general. For you to have more, that means that someone else has to have less. Think about how much strife this belief causes in our world, and in your world. When we hold a scarcity mind-set, we attract situations that reinforce this, so we struggle and worry that we won’t have enough. The truth is everyone can have enough, and more than enough. When we unplug from a belief in scarcity, we find that we attract abundance of all that we need. And, more importantly, that your abundance is not affected by anyone else’s abundance. If you feel that you are the “99%”, feel resentful of the “1%”, or you worry about not having enough, clear that belief so that you can plug into the truth that you can have what you need and want, and so can everyone else.
Your Happiness is Dependent on Others
Have you ever tried to change someone? Did it ever work? No, it didn’t, and it just left you (and them) drained and frustrated and, perhaps, damaged the relationship. Have you ever tried to change for someone else because they wanted you to? Did it work? Probably not. The boss who doesn’t value you, the spouse who doesn’t love or respect you enough, the kids who don’t listen to you, the friends who judge you, or the people in control of the government. They are who they are and will do what they do. But they don’t determine your happiness. You do. You and only you. Your happiness is your responsibility. And their happiness is their responsibility. Work on you.